PREACHED:OL,12-7-03,PM

 

"THE FAMILY OF GOD"

 

INTRODUCTION:

 

1=  WHAT A RARE PRIVILEGE!!

 

A.     In a time when broken homes are so prevalent, we have the rare privilege of being a part of a loving spiritual family!

 

1.     And that ought to be treasured by each of us!

 

B.     No matter what our physical family is like, all Christians experience the joy of being in God's

spiritual family, THE CHURCH.

 

1.     1Jno 3:1; Rom 8:16,17.

 

2=  THERE IS ANOTHER STRIKING LIKENESS BETWEEN THE MODERN HOME AND THE MODERN CHURCH!

 

A.     As there seems to be less allegiance to the

sacredness of the home and a willingness to do what is necessary to maintain it, so it is with the church!

 

1.     A lack of loyalty to the home—a growing problem!

 

a.     Also true in business & the church!

 

3=  GOD'S WORD TELLS US THE SOLUTIONS: 

 

A.     I Tim 3:15. “…if I delay, you may know how one ought to behave in the household of God, which is the church of the living God…”

 

1.     Paul’s statement speaks to the scriptural organization and work of the church.

 

a.     But there is a principle we need to see:

 

1)     The church is a family! And many of the attitudes and actions that will keep the home together, will keep the church together!!

 

DISCUSSION:

 

1=  LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER -

 

A.     Vivid parallel – Eph 5:25, 28; I John 3:16. “By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers. 4:7. “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.”  V 16. “So, we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.”  Vs 19,20. “We love because he first loved us. If anyone says, ‘I love God,’ and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother.”

 

B.     Even in the world in strong families love and

loyalty to family takes precedence over any other relationships.

 

1.     Peter stresses:  1Pet 3:8. “Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and an humble mind…”

 

D.     Good parents are known for the ability to maintain their love and vision for children even during times of disappointment, disobedience and rebellion.

 

1.                I like the way one person put it:

 

"Home--a world of strife shut out, a world of love shut in.  Home--the place where the small are great and the great are small.  Home--the father's kingdom, the mother's world and the child's paradise.  Home--where we grumble the most and are treated the best."

 

2.     One poet wrote:

 

"It isn't the chairs and the books and things, Or the pictures that hang on the walls; And it isn't the bird, although sweety he sings, It's the laughter that rings in the halls; It's the smile on the face of the mother at night, And the joy in the little one's eyes, And our love for each other with all its delight That makes up the home that we prize."

 

E.     And that's the way it should be in the church!!

 

1.     Listen to Peter again:  1Pet 4:8.Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since loves covers a multitude of sins.”

               

2.     Paul adds: “Love does no wrong to a neighbor…”  (Rom 13:10).

 

2=  HIGH EXPECTATIONS AND ACCOUNTABILITY

 

A.     As family members, we have legitimate expectations of one another! I Cor 4:2. “It is required of stewards that they be found trustworthy…”

               

1.     Husbands as stewards are expected to work and provide for their families.

 

2.     Wives as stewards are expected to put the home and family first.

 

3.     Children as stewards are expected to respect and obey their parents.

 

4.     Parents as stewards are expected to give guidance and direction to their children.

 

Ø   All legitimate expectations!!

 

B.     And if a family member does not live up to

legitimate expectations, he/she should be held

accountable for the neglect.

 

1.     But, if a failure to function effectively is allowed to continue without account-ability, the family becomes, to that extend, dysfunctional!

 

C.     The same atmosphere should exist in our

spiritual family, the church!

 

1.     Our personal relationship with brothers and sisters in Christ should challenge us to be productive and fruitful Christians!  

 

a.     Jno 15:8; Rom 7:4.

 

2.     The terms used in the scriptures to describe our responsibility to one another such as , "rebuke," "encourage," "correct," "submit," all imply a sense of expectation and accountability!

 

3.     Leaders are like fathers in the home.  They set visionary goals and make sure they are implemented through ministry and rightfully expect the members to be involved and supportive of them!

 

a.     BUT just as a father is command-ed not to exasperate or embitter their children (Eph 6:4 and Col 3:21), even so, leaders in the church should set examples worthy of emulation! 

 

1)     Heb 13:7. “Remember your leaders, those who spoke to you the word of God. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.”

 

3=  UNITY AND COMMUNICATION

 

A.     Happiness, joy and contentment abound in families that are united!!

 

 

1.     And unity is promoted and maintained by open, honest and loving communi-cation!

 

a.     But this communication is only productive in families where there is a deep commitment to one another and family members know that they are loved, appreciated, protected and defended.

 

1)     “I love you and will be truthful and open with you…” 

 

2)     “I know you love me and I trust you; therefore, I will listen to what you say and give you the benefit of the doubt when mistakes are made.”

 

B.     Families that work at building and maintaining

an atmosphere of mutual, deep and genuine trust remain close during times of stress!!

 

C.     In the church, trust is developed by open, clear, unmistakable communication!!

 

D.     All it takes is for one member of the family --

husband, wife, son or daughter -- to have their own selfish agenda and to secretly manipulate others to achieve it, and trust and unity are destroyed!!

 

1.     Rom 12:9-11. “Let love be genuine… Love one another with brotherly affec-tion. Outdo one another in showing honor…”

 

4=  AN OUTWARD FOCUS

 

A.     Parents need to teach their children both by

precept and practice, both in reason and in

resources that the greatest blessing comes with sharing their lives in service to others!!

 

1.     Acts 20:35; Rom 12:8. “…the one who does acts of mercy (is to do so) with cheerfulness.”

 

2.     I really am concerned about the isolation, self-serving, fortress mentality directing much of the concept of family in our society!

 

a.     Good family life is often perceived as fulfilling personal wants and desires with no thought of those outside the family circle!

 

B.     Same dilemma is being seen in the Church!!

 

1.     Have we selfishly internalized in the church?

 

a.     Rom 12:13. “Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.”

 

Phil 2:3,4. “Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

 

 Gal 6:10.  “So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.”

 

C.     God never intended the church to be a cold

institution in which people with superficial

relationships, occasionally meet together for

worship!  Instead, he wants a close-knit

family characterized by intimate, life-

changing relationships. 

 

D.     But also, he intends for us to share that

love that we enjoy with a loveless world!

 

E.     Why did the persecution arise against

the church in Jerusalem in Acts 8?

 

1.     Could it have been the providential

hand of God?

 

                        a.     Christ’s plan – Acts 1:8

 

                        b.     God’s action – Acts 8:1,4

 

                2.     Why?

 

a.     They were staying in Jerusalem and not reaching out as God intended!

 

CONCLUSION:

 

1=  LET'S COMMIT OURSELVES TO:

 

A.                Love one another more!

 

B.                Raise our expectations and hold each other accountable! 

 

C.                Work at Communication and unity! 

 

D.               Teach and live an outward focus!!